This is the situation I saw from day one, and the actions I have taken to protect people of interest to me.
For safety sake of those involved I will use artificial names, so I truely can't be prusued for defamation of anyone.
Day One (First offense):
'Joy' a sweet 13 yr old girl that comes up to the office to check for mail for her father (who is a drunk, we'll just refer to him as 'alchy'), stops and visits with me about new events in school and how her journalism job is going. I'm really quite proud of her, she seems to be growing into a good person dispite her surroundings.. aka her no good drunk father that's raising her in a trailer park. While she was visiting with me, the 'Pastor' came up to the office. He informed Joy that her father Alchy (who he had befriended since his recent arrival), wanted to her to "Get her butt home, and do home work..." I am watching Pastor guy try to hold a casual conversation with her, and the whole time, something is a miss, I just can't put my finger on it, but his actions are just giving me a bad vibe. Just before he leaves the office, Pastor turns and swats Joy on the ass with his mail, and leaves.
Now for most people that's not enough to accuse someone of being a pedophile, but for me it is. Joy was stunned by his actions, and stood there eyes wide open, (after he left the office) in utter silence. I asked her if she was comfortable with what just happend, and she said No! I assured her that she doesn't have to tolerate any kind of actions from adults that she doesn't deem appropriate or that make her uncomfortable, and that she needs to react, instead of blow it off. I gave her a good sisterly speech on safety and to watch out for this guy. And that if anything happens to tell anyone and everyone so she can get help.
I also did my part and informed a few people in the park what I witnessed. 1. Her gaurdians, that watch over her when Alchy ends up in jail for drinking and driving. 2. Her friends father. 3. My boss's (the owners) as well as the maintenance man who also acts as security. And finally 4. Alchy (Joy's father) who should be her first line of defense.
Now warning Alchy was about as succesful as having a conversation with a brickwall. He was no doubt intoxicated at the time of the conversation, but gave me some line about how he knew Pastor wasn't for little kids, and said "Keep your friends close and your enemies closer" Which obviously he wasn't comprehending that's just what will put Joy at risk.
Approxiametly 4 days later on a Friday, Pastor and Alchy come up to the office together. Which I thought was odd because usually one or the other come up and they fetch eachothers mail, since they are buddy buddy. It was obvious to me why they had come up together as soon as they were ready to leave when Pastor approached my counter and said only this to me.
"I just want you to know defamation of character is a serious crime."
I stared blankley at him, and said nothing in return. They walked out of the office promptly after Pastor said his little line. So it was obvious Alchy was not doing his part in protecting Joy as he obviously informed Pastor that I was accusing him of being a potential pedophile.
Next Monday, Pastor comes up to the office and offers an appology for what he said on Friday saying he'd take back what he said.... IF I took back what I was saying about him. Now really what would be your response? What was mine? I said
"Sorry I can't take back what I said and I won't. I'm entitled to my opinion, and if you want to hold it against me that I'm looking out for the safety of a young girl then so be it." He began back peddling saying how it was harmless action, and would have been no different then kicking her in the butt. Which I smartly remarked, "But then that's considered abuse." He tried to play it off that smacking her on the ass was as harmless as touching me on the shoulder which he did *which made me want to recoil and vomit on him* I should of went off on the whole bad touch safe touch areas, like CSD drilled me on when they caught wind of me being molested.
Now really I must ad, that I am a very passive person, and confrontation is the last thing I want. And I am very proud of myself for not backing down to this creeps little scare tactic. It has paid off and this is how.
Pastor, burnt his bridge with Alchy 1. He stole his car and took it for a joy ride, 2. He got caught having one of Joy's friends sitting on his lap, and he was rubbing her stomach. *In a harmless way? I think not!* When Joy's friend got off his lap he had a full blown erection. Joy also before that incident reported him making comments about "How she was looking hot today"... and making comments about Joy's friend being his "girlfriend".
His family members (Sister and brother) I believe were the ones that arranged for him to move in here, saying he had a disability, and they wanted him close by so they could check on him. And if this is what they were referring to as his disability that is very screwed up. I am working on taking the motions to get this guy out of the park.
But however my room mate brought up a good point. This guy does not need to be passed on to another unsuspecting place.. he needs to be busted. Now as good as that sounds, busting someone is not an easy process. My little sister went through it with her step dad last year, case was won and he was convicted of 48 years (8 years for each count that he was put on trial for). The whole court process was not a cake walk, it's very tramatizing to any young adult, or adult for that matter. There is nothing more humiliating then talking about what this person did to you when no one was looking, and waiting for a verdict from the jury to see if they believe you.
This guy uses his pastor idenity as a means for others to trust him. While his appearance screams creepo. He offers counciling to kids, and does so in his trailer.
This in my opinion is illegitatemate and wrong. First off if he's a pastor where is his church? Two having "private" counseling sessions inside his trailer, is not safe or appropraite in anyway, they should be in public places, such as hrm a church perhaps.
So this is were the great JU user's come in... What do I do? What would you do? This man does need to be stopped before some little girl does get hurt. But how do I stop him? How do I prevent others from getting hurt? And protect my own ass at the same time..?